I don’t do self-help books. It’s just not my thing. When you read them in public, they have embarrassingly bold titles that advertises to the world what’s wrong with you. When you check them out at the library or buy them at the bookstore, you get that “look” from the person over the counter.
Not that I’m speaking from experience—well…okay, I might have glanced at one self-help book. It was after I graduated from university; it was a transitional period in my life so you can understand why my literary standards may have been compromised when I came upon the title I Don’t Know What I Want—But I Know It’s Not This! staring at me from the library shelves.
Was I able to derive any self-help? Nope. One year later and I’m still waiting for the light to shine.
When I started reading Ronda Rich’s What Southern Women Know About Flirting, I didn’t realize that I was reading a self-help book; I actually assumed the book was collection of short stories. If it wasn’t for my admiration of Scarlett O’Hara, I would have abandoned this manual at the introduction. I persisted and I’m glad I persisted—this book is a pleasant find for an open mind.
Ronda Rich has a unique definition of flirting. Southern flirting is not seductive flirting, but the simple act of treating everyone with kindness. Therein lies the allure of a Southern belle: she treats the cabbie and waitress with the same amount of respect as she may direct toward a doctor or a congressman. The Southern belle is the embodiment of warmth, the symbol of the feminine mystique.
You don’t have to be Southern to be a belle. With enough self-confidence, compassion, and consideration, all women can charm the world.